phoebebeloved asked:

Top 5 ways to deflect unwanted sexual advances


Hi!! Okay this would be from my personal experience so there may be better ways to deal with this
1. If in public with people around and somebody is being overly insistent or is touching you, loudly ask them to stop. Like, assertively say it loud enough so that everybody around knows what’s going on so all their eyes with uncomfortably fall upon the person harassing you.

2. If you don’t want to abruptly start shouting at him, you can take a very threatening tone and quietly tell him to leave you alone or you WILL make a scene and won’t hold back and see then if he backs off. If not, then you can bring attention to yourself and the situation.

3. If a man catcalls me or follows or won’t leave me alone, my usual go to is to give the absolute coldest stare and say nothing as I glare at them. It usually annoys them and they’ll say something rude but they walk away anyways because they realize they’ll get no conversation out of me.

4. Most importantly, when you’re rejecting unwanted advances, don’t apologize. Don’t excuse yourself and don’t allow yourself to be questioned. Too many men think that women are being shy and timid when rejecting advances and that they really do like the attention. You often times need to be assertive in not wanting the attention, even if it makes them call you a bitch. Be a bitch. You’re not under any obligation to be kind and sweet to everyone just because you’re a lady. If they don’t leave you alone when you say you’re not interested, don’t be scared to get fiercer in your rejection, don’t salvage any feelings.

5. In fact, on top of not allowing yourself to be questioned, you can question them. Too often when women reject sexual advances, they’re asked if it’s because they have a boyfriend, they’re asked if they’re lesbians or prudes. If a man doesn’t leave you alone, start badgering him with questions. Why are you so desperate? Why did nobody teach you the meaning of no? Even dogs understand the word. Why do I need an excuse to not want you? Do you think you’re such a prize?

Top tips from Amber.


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While the poses aren’t exact, I think we know where the inspiration for the back cover of the Moon Pride album came from!
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While the poses aren’t exact, I think we know where the inspiration for the back cover of the Moon Pride album came from!

Anonymous asked:

What are the signs of emotional abuse?


Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

I’d love it if even one person did this

Go on ANON and tell me what you think of me. I do not want to know who it is, at all. Don’t tell me who it is, don’t give me hints, don’t say your screen name. Tell me exactly what you think of me. Don’t sugarcoat things. Don’t lie. If you hate me, tell me why. Tell me what I’m doing wrong. If you like me, tell me why. Tell me exactly what you think of me.

Nobody ever asks me these things but what they hey.